I know i am only 20 years of age and i still have to grow up and become a real adult, but i do have some things pretty much figured out. For example; Everyone has made a mistake or two in their life. So i see no point in holding their past against them, that would be foolish. I have made and still make mistakes here and there, so for me to hold those past mistakes against someone is bologna. That’s just the adult thing to do. (In my book anyway) Another adult characteristic that i strongly believe in is communication, especially in a relationship. Communicating with you partner is the key to a successful relationship. Not telling your partner what’s bugging you about the relationship or not talking about a fight you had, doesn’t give you guys the room that you need to grow closer. Not communicating pushes you apart! So I really do use and live by the notion that communication is key. I also know that nothing will be handed to you, and that you have to work your ass off for the things you want everyday to become successful! Complaining and whinnying about a problem won’t get that problem fixed. You have to work with the problem figure it out and correct it. That is how i believe an adult assess a problem and takes care of it. There is no time or room for acting like a baby when a problem faces you head on, you work your butt off to overcome that problem and proceed like nothing ever happened. Correct me if I am wrong, but In the Liz book these are some KEY assets that adults should have.
When people say censorship we automatically think of banned books and Bill of Rights First Amendment Freedom of speech/press. When I think censorship I think of people. People that are oppressed, bullied, or unable to speak for themselves, for example sever special needs. The people who fall under these categories, need more people like us that are not suppressed or oppressed by anything. We’re the one’s that have that freedom to change things… but we don’t. We don’t even have the balls to say how we feel about a certain subject matter, or enough courage to tell others how we feel. So all of you out there ,that are so against censorship, are we not just censoring ourselves, from the everyday would’a, should’a, could’a saids? If you don’t express yourself you are censoring. I believe that you can’t be against bullying if you don’t even stick up for yourself or say what’s on your mind. You just become the mean girl who goes along with everything, but doesn’t par-take in the name calling.
So this past weekend I went out to a party with some friends, my best friend (Alejandra) and her soccer pals from college. It was fun until we met up with Alejandra’s boy friend ad his friends. So was stupid drunk so i took care of her all night. (Like Best friends do.) They got into a big fight because she talked to a guy that we went to high school with and said hi. Excuse me? Yeah I know, dumb right? So we drove all the back home. (that’s an hour and 1/2 drive home) She’s on the phone with him the whole way home. We get home and she asks if i want to go back and party some more. By this time it’s already 4 AM. There’s no way in hell i’m going back so you guys can fight some more. I DON”T GET IT. One thing i hate more than stupidity is people asking me my race or ethnicity. I believe that one’s creed doesn’t matter. If they’re good people, they’re good people. I posed this question a lot, because i have a big butt and curly hair, and people can’t seem to figure my race out. Well why this fight between Alejandra and her boyfriend were going on, one of Alejandra’s soccer pals asked what my race was. I answered by saying human. SHE didn’t get it. Than i told her i am mixed. My dad is half black, half Cherokee indian and my mom is white, but i was adopted and raised by my step mom who is mexican. I have to explain every thing like that so people understand what I am about 5 times a day since i was 12. I don’t get it! I see it like this, we are in the 21st century, where we have a black president, you don’t get asked you race on job apps. anymore, and interracial marriages are becoming more seen. So why is it sooo important for people to try to play the guessing game about another person’s racial identity? As far as i see it, we are all humans, so are we not the a race of humans? I DON’T GET IT!
Today I got told that I’m a pervert, because I’m confident in my self and open with my sexuality. Something seems completely wrong here. Sense when did being open, honest, and confident in one’s self and sexuality become perversion? Just because I’m open with my sexual orientation doesn’t make me a whore or a lesbian or any other word you can come up with that would belittle me for partaking in such activities. What I do with my significant other does not get in the way of: school, work, traveling, or family time. It does not make me a bad person or a trashy person. I do not involve myself in PDA’s. (PDA= Public Display of Affection) I keep my love life /personal life completely separate from work and school. So in what way am I a pervert? I only tell gross sex jokes when I’m with my brothers and my guy friends. I do not just talk all willy-nilly about my sex life to strangers or random people in my classes, because doing that makes one look like they lack couth, and well I sir do not lack couth. So to all the up tight, no sex doing, sex is a sin having, anti-GLBTQ haters, I keep the quarter between my legs reader, please just shut the front door and lock it. If you do not like what one is talking about and it makes you uncomfortable than say something nicely, not jerky! Sugar gets you a lot further than vinegar.
I have rules by which i live my life and i follow those rules to the T. They’re the standards and morals that i believe i should live by. They are not to complicated or too over the top. They are mostly rules that i assume everyone lives by. For example Kai Rule #15 never take a guy home from the bar. Kai Rule #12 never travel alone. Kai Rule #1 was communicate, and this number one because if you don’t communicate with those around you how do you expect them to understand your perspective on things? I understand that not a lot of people can do this or even see this as something that’s important in everyday life, but umm, HELLO!! It is. As this my number one rule this is also my number one problem right now. When i fight/argue with people, i have to talk it out and make things right. If i was in the wrong than i apologize, and if the other person is wrong i would also like an apology. I believe that is the “grown up” thing to do. Don’t you?
I’m Kai. I’m and elementary education major with endorsements in spanish and special needs. I’m 20 years young, but not crazy like all those other kids around my age. I’m very involved in my community and I hope to be a kick-ass person someday. 🙂 So there’s a little of Kai.